Few days back I with my friends visited to a beautiful Water Park. They have a lovely 14 yr old daughter. We were all enjoying when suddenly I saw her father shouting on her. I went to her mother and asked softly What happened? Why is your husband shouting on Arohi?"
She said " Arohi wanted to go to those big slides and her father did not allow her. When she refused to listen to her, he started to scold her."
"But see everyone is watching them, so ask him to cool down and stop" I said her. But she did not go to stop him, instead she replied " No it's ok yar. These kids are now a days becoming very indisciplined. They just do not want to listen to their parents and think that they are very grown up."
Arohi was standing just like a statue in the middle of the park. Shivering with cold and embarrassment. I could see her face getting red. And suddenly she shouted "Even I get embarrassed Dad. It is a public place. Can't you see that? Everyone is looking at me, I am feeling so bad."
And she ran to the changing room. We all immediately packed our bags and drove back home. All thru the time, I could see the anger and embarrassment on Arohi's face.
When I narrated this incident to my husband in the evening, he said " There are many such parents like Arohi's father who shout on their children in Public Places. Shouting on a small child or a teenager..is same. To yell and shout is not a solution".
Yes, it is true. We as parents need to understand that even our kids have self esteem and they get embarrassed when we shout on them at public places. This is a very common practise that many of the parents do. We have to control our anger and try to make them understand their mistake. Either we can take them aside or we can scold them slowly at such places. Or else in return our child can also shout on us and behave the way Arohi did.
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